Back when I was in junior high school, my friends and I would sit in the yard during lunch time and discuss (don’t tell me mom) sex! We were 13, some of us 14, sharing overheard stories we ear hustled from our older sisters who actually did the dirty deed and lived to talk about it. We didn’t know much, just rumors. Ya know, if you ride a bike you could break your hymen types of things. And we all know that girl who knows someone it happened to. So it had to be real.
Then I actually had sex (sorry mom) and realized those school yard conversations were actually just rumors and speculation. My first time wasn’t in a big bed, with slow music serenading the room. I wasn’t wearing matching panties and bra or fully oiled. There was no foreplay besides sloppy kissing and boob fondles.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane. Shall we?
Using a tampon will take your virginity!
“Everyone believed this. I remember this. Everyone had discussions about this. Everyone would try to find the smallest one, so it wouldn’t take your value away. Oh the stupidness.” -Oretha Winston, 30+
Doggy style makes your butt grow!
“Actually this one is true. Before I had I sex my booty was flat as a pancake. But once I built up the courage to back that thing up on my boo. I noticed some new found girth.” -Gabrielle Carter, 32
Big feet, big ___
“This is definitely a myth. I found out the hard way. I had sex with a guy who wore a size 12 shoe, his hands were not reflective of his massive shoe size. Too bad he wore underoos!” -Lola Fontaine, 30+
Once you pop, you can’t stop!
“Never heard this before. Whoever said it clearly didn’t get popped right the first time. Bam Bam Bam!” – Keyshia Davenport, 31
I’m going to be with my first partner forever!
“After I lost my virginity, I thought that automatically made the guy I had sex my boyfriend. I thought wrong. After the deed was done, we continued to mess around but no title. Sad face.” -Shamika Sanders, 24
The first time will bring excruciating pain…
“The first time I had sex, I remember thinking really? is the “Golden Girls” on? I could really be watching that right now. And he had a nice one.”
-Shenequa Golding, 27
You can’t get pregnant if you do it on your period
“I know people who thought that they were safe but ended up getting caught!” -Nicole “pregnant as all h*ll” Silver, 30
When you have sex you become a woman!
“The first time I had sex, I thought I was really grown. I tried talking back to my mother one night when I snuck in the house, my glasses were broken. That didn’t work out so well, thus proving this statement false.” -Ty Alexander, 36
Anal sex doesn’t count
“Oprah did this whole segment about how middle school kids in middle America do anal sex to maintain their virginity. I didn’t know this was a thing but all the kids were doing it. It totally counts. I love where they were going with it though. Good thought for preservation!” -Michelle Imani, 40
I will never give head!
“Oral sex was so taboo when I was growing up. It was OK for a man to get it but not OK for a female to give it because then she would be a ho. Men giving oral sex was not even heard of. I didn’t get orally pleased until I was well into high school. And even then it was bad! I remember saying, ‘If my man wants someone to do that, he can find someone else. I’m not doing it.’ Girl. Let my man go outside my relationship now. I’ll cut him!” -Damize Phillips, 27
Breaking your hymen will result in massive blood loss
“I was so scared that when I lost my virginity, we’d have to stop to clean up the blood. I even contemplated putting a towel down just in case. The first time I did it, my hymen didn’t even break. It wasn’t until the third person I had sex with, that I actually saw a little blood. Let me emphasize “little” again!”
After prom is the perfect time to lose your virginity
“Not freaking true. Sex scared me when I was in high school because I thought the minute I had sex I was going to end up pregnant or with an STD and I did not need that on prom night of all nights!” -Danielle Young, 28
